The Dating Game Has a New Set of Rules

Looking for Mr. or Ms. Right? Embrace technology.

The book "The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right," published in 1995 and once considered the guide to modern dating, is no longer the final word on how to date.

In fact, those regimented rules don't necessarily work.

"He's not going to land up on your doorstep, you know, that only happens on TV," said relationship expert Dr. Ava Cadell.

For years, Cadell has been telling singles, all is fair in the dating game.

"There are no rules to dating," said Cadell. "There are just lots and lots of options."

Cadell suggests singles should be cautious, but open. Dating in today's world is all about technology and to succeed, singles must embrace it.

"Now, couples are texting instead of kissing and talking and communicating and even having foreplay -- they're sexting instead," she said.


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Cadell suggests there are a couple ways to increase the chances of finding a soul mate.

Date a lot. The dating game is a numbers game, she said.

Don't put limitations on a relationship before it even becomes serious.

"Give people a chance, even if there isn't the immediate chemistry, they might be friends with your soul mate," she said.

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